Set Your Own Dating Rules
by "Marie Anna," a Psychic Advisor on Keen*
Books and personal coaches can offer helpful guidance, but ultimately, you have to decide what is important to you when dating. Setting your own rules and boundaries lets you know now, rather than later, if your guy is capable of being a man. Men want to have something to work for and to stand up for. Anything that gets handed to them without a challenge or any effort on their part is not respected. Boundaries and limits help men to feel safe and keep them focused.
Tips for setting standards
Define your role.
Are you in a romantic relationship or are you his mother? One can be supportive and kind, but to the detriment of oneself. It is a mother's role, not yours, to be self-sacrificing.
Define how you are going to express your disdain for bad behavior. Some options include:
1. Verbalize how you feel
2. Stop taking his calls
3. Mirror his behavior
4. Forget about him and move on
Scenario: A woman was dating a guy who was very busy with three jobs and he kept canceling dates. She adopted a supportive, understanding role. After being strung along for about three months, she finally verbalized her feelings and the guy's response was "It's your fault. You were willing to wait around."
The courtship ended with this experience serving as a valuable lesson for this woman. She decided that if she were to encounter a similar situation in the future, she would tell her date, "I know that your three jobs are priorities at this time. When you can begin dating without canceling dates, give me a call. I might be around. No hard feelings."
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How much are you going to give without getting anything in return?
Have you made him dinner? Have you gone "dutch" on dates? Have you mended an article of clothing? Are you washing his dishes?
You really don't have to act as his maid. Most women are no longer "housewives." And you are most likely out in the world working, just as he is.
*From the Blog of "Marie Anna," a Psychic Advisor on Keen
